BE PATIENT WHILE ACCUMULATING
“Accumulation” is an interesting word. I wrote about it briefly back in 2009:
In accumulating stages, almost everything we encounter contains some potential and unpredictable possibilities, most of which are positive and are quite interesting to predict. Why are they interesting? Because things go up and down (and up and down and up and down), the middle parts between ups and downs are actually accumulating stages.
Once we accept the fact that What goes up Must come down (and up and down), accumulating stages are rare moments when the orbit slows down and gives us a boarder perspective of the whole landscape. The progression of the next (up or down) circle will then happen so naturally that sometimes we don’t even realise it’s happening. The real challenge is – being able to zoom in and zoom out frequently in order to catch the rhythm of the game.
Looking back, I can’t believe I wrote this passage when I was 19. However I know the reason: It was right after the 2008 financial crisis when I was forced to leave Law school in Australia. I spent 2008 & 2009 in great depression, I was shocked and was literally receiving psychological treatment while (still) needed to go to school and worked as a stockbroker everyday. I remember locking myself in the toilet of the company crying many times because it was too much, life was so hard.
One day when I was crying, the boss knocked on the door of the toilet, asked me out and said something that changed everything:
“Look, I know what’s happening to you, I know it’s a hard time for you and for all of us. You can see how’s the market performing and we are cutting 70% of our headcount. You stay because you cost almost nothing. Myself wished to wake up today and this mess was over. But here it is, so stay with me, take it as the worst day of your life, then tomorrow things can only get better. Life will pick up again, much sooner than you think. For now, be patient, work hard and don’t be too hard on yourself. This, too, shall pass.”
I know it sounds crazy to say that: I’m grateful that (I think) I’ve witnessed the worst days of my life. After a very bad day, things can only get better; I just need to work hard and be patient (back in 2009 it meant to get a Bachelor degree). And if sometimes things get bad or require more work and patience, I’m not scared – Been there, done that.
I’m not saying that you must witness the worst days of your life in order to be a better person; but it helps if we take a positive view on changes, be patient, work hard, prepare yourself for the next (up and down) circle. Ironically, we have to prepare ourselves much better for great things that happen, because (naturally) they are followed by (not necessarily bad stuff but) even greater challenges.
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