SELECT YOUR PEOPLE
Let me share with you a story. It begins with a picture that I drew a while ago (my drawing is terrible, he’d be very angry):
We first met in a very cold winter night – 6th January a few years ago. I had submitted a desk research about his company to my professor that morning and later on found the exact same guy standing next to me at a bar. He drove me home that night.
In short, we dated briefly then decided to remain friends. Despite ups and downs, we have managed to stay great friends until recently when my life has (eventually) picked up a bit (because I’ve been working like hell for years). He has told me “not to be too positive while sharing great news about your life with people”. I think what he really meant was: “Don’t let people think that you’ve lost your humility and keep yourself away from haters.” and he had good attention. However, the same talks have gradually become very uncomfortable, at one point I just asked him to stay away from me (for now). I might be wrong and ruthless (to myself too) but I was thinking rationally while doing so.
People (both your loved ones and haters) will tell you all the time about what they think you should do. Let’s not talk about haters, many times your closed ones will tell you to comply and conceal yourself (because they actually worry that you’ll get hurt). Keep a distance for a while, do your things and see how it goes. Isolation will break your heart but you have to train yourself to focus and to not listen to the noise.
I’m not saying that you should kick anyone out of your life, however, in daily life, surround yourself with and create the attachment with positive people that you can actually discuss with and find solutions to get yourself to where you want to be.
Choose your teammates carefully, because you would need an A+ team to make dreams come true.
How about the rest of people, what should we do with them?
Well, to people that really matter to you in some ways or another, take any chance you have to remind them that: I may not love you the way you want me to, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love you with all my heart. Which means: The love itself is unquestionable, however, everyone has tons of work to be done, has only one life to live, has dreams to be created. If we can’t agree on the same directions then just let each other go (for a while) and do our own things. The love is there, forever.
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