How to get Everything you want (9)

I’m back with Part 9 of How to get Everything you want

I know, I missed my deadline (which was 2 days ago) that I promised you (and myself), again. I’m sorry, I should give more realistic deadlines when it comes to hard problems to solve (or to write about).

This step was so difficult for me to publish because it’s very personal. I’m about to tell you to do something that (most of the time) will break your heart. As I was writing, examples (of my own actions) broke my heart too. Nevertheless I think it’s a very crucial thing to do, in order to get everything we want, therefore I’m here writing to you.

But first, let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

I hope that for the past few days, you have completed 3 most important tasks of each day and have been able to tell yourself before going to bed – “I couldn’t have done it any better (today)!”

Here’s Step 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Let me share with you a story. It begins with a picture that I drew a while ago (my drawing is terrible, he’d be very angry):


We first met in a very cold winter night – 6th January few years ago. I had submitted a desk research about his company to my professor that morning and later on found the exact same guy standing next to me at a bar. He drove me home that night.

In short, we dated briefly then decided to remain friends. Despite ups and downs, we have managed to stay great friends until recently when my life has (eventually) picked up a bit (because I’ve been working like hell for years). He has told me “not to be too positive while sharing great news about your life with people”. I think what he really meant was: “Don’t let people think that you’ve lost your humility and keep yourself away from haters.” and he had good attention. However the same talks have gradually become very uncomfortable, at one point I just asked him to stay away from me (for now). I might be wrong and ruthless (to myself too) but I was thinking rationally while doing so.


People (both your loved ones and haters) will tell you all the time about what they think you should do. Let’s not talk about haters, many times your closed ones will tell you to comply and conceal yourself (because they actually worry that you’ll get hurt). Keep a distance for a while, do your things and see how it goes. Isolation will break your heart but you have to train yourself to focus and to not listen to noise.

I’m not saying that you should kick anyone out of your life, however,

In daily life, surround yourself with and create attachment with positive people that you can actually discuss with and find solutions to get yourself to where you want to be.

Choose your teammates carefully, because you would need an A+ team to make dreams come true. 

How about the rest of people, what should we do with them?

Well, to people that really matter to you in some ways or another, take any chance you have to remind them that: I may not love you the way you want me to; but that doesn’t mean I don’t love you with all my heart. Which means: The love itself is unquestionable, however everyone has (tons of) work to be done, has only one life to live, has dreams to be created. If we can’t agree on the same directions then just let each other go (for a while) and do our own things. The love is there, forever.



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