How to get Everything you want (14)

I’m back with Part 14 of How to get Everything you want.

Moving an entire house from town to town(s) and being sick at the same time have made good reasons for myself to stop working for a week. I’m not here to say sorry since I had intentionally abandoned my promise to write, which is not a good habit. In fact, I’m here writing because I want to destroy the “not creating anything” momentum completely.

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

Part 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Part 10: Be patient while accumulating (please don’t be patient sitting there doing nothing).

Part 11: Be happy living frugally, then (one day) you can have it all and will still be happy, then (one day) you may lose everything and will still be happy.

Part 12: Test yourself to see if you have what it takes to get Everything you want.

Part 13: Be Remarkable, create things that are closest to perfection, pay attention to detail.

Last part was my favourite as I wrote about one of my most favourite things on earth – perfection. If you’d read and thought about it – perfection is so hard to achieve, many said it’s impossible – that might be true, however not in the case of rockets. A rocket needs to be perfectly perfect, every pre-calculated math has to be perfect, otherwise you’ll just blow billions of dollars away (each time).

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Perfection or the ultimate level of aestheticism requires a complete vision, a lot of creation and the habit to constantly challenge/eliminate the imperfections – I highlighted the habit because it’s the actual execution and it’s powerful; the right habits can (many times) lead you to even the most impossible result – perfection.

Here’s Part 14: Habits are powerful. Create some good ones.

Habits represent consistency; and consistency creates (or destroys) trust. It’s really not worth mentioning the consistent badness, nevertheless I would like to introduce you to the decode of consistent goodness – goodness doesn’t only belong to a small group of gifted people, it belongs to the community of people who are willing to create and maintain good habits.

There’s one obvious fact: we can’t change anyone but we can train ourselves. Champions, masters, achievers, enlightened people are (most of the time) not the smartest, but the ones who train themselves every single day. On the other hand, losers of all kinds buy in comfort and laziness. Nevertheless, hardcore training and comfort and laziness have one thing in common – they are habits, which are much easier to form than to break.

Different habits are the main causes to one’s greatness or nowhere.

Good news, habits can be formed. Good habits or bad habits, they are both habits, they are the same, physically – habits are settled or regular tendencies or practices. You could be the laziest and unproductive person on earth, you too can someday become the most efficient, if you force yourself to repeat and perfect the practice of smart working until yourself feel comfortable with the routine, a.k.a. your new habit. Trust me, once you get there it’s gonna be unthinkable going back to the “useless person” habit again (and that’s not because you’ve then become a better person, that’s just how habits work).

I have been putting in a lot of reasoning but examples and citations in this article because I seriously haven’t got time to read during the past week, and my brain hurts. My reading habit has become so established that my brain literally screams out of emptiness if I don’t feed it with words, books for a few days.

I would very much love to see you too come up with a list of few healthy habits and promise yourself that you are gonna train yourself everyday to become the best of the best.

– Skye

How to get Everything you want (13)

I’m back with Part 13 of How to get Everything you want.

As usual, let me begin by telling you a little story.

I’m a (cheese)cake addict. Today I had my lunch appointment with my friend Stephen (not his real name) and we looked for a place with the best chocolate cake in town. Here’s the lovely cafe Au Parc, if you are in Saigon you should definitely check it out:

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From today onwards, this place is legendary, according to my standards – not only because of the chocolate cake and my friend whom found the perfect chocolate cake (sorry Stephen), but also because the place has just been renovated and the inside decoration has become very close to perfection (I will take a photo next time and show you).

I used to have my weekend breakfast at Au Parc, however have never been a fan – the weather has always been too hot to sit outside, and then inside it was just depressing due to uncomfortable setting. I had quite a surprise today stepping in seeing the place that has been tripled in size and was installed with French-like tables. Such details, every detail, changed the whole experience.

In conclusion, may I say I even thought the (same) food tasted much better than before. Such emotionally-shifting conclusion deserves the spotlight as Part 13 in my article today. But first, let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

Part 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Part 10: Be patient while accumulating (please don’t be patient sitting there doing nothing).

Part 11: Be happy living frugally, then (one day) you can have it all and will still be happy, then (one day) you may lose everything and will still be happy.

Part 12: Test yourself to see if you have what it takes to get Everything you want.

I was very sad every time I heard someone said something like – “Life is simply easier for certain people!” – No, not at all. And if you are still with me and somehow you have been through all 12 previous parts of How to get Everything you want, you can see that life, through the pictures I have painted, is not easy for anyone. Bravery is way overrated – we can all be brave, by choice, and get everything we want by drawing our own map(s) and work hard and be disciplined. Choose yourself and fight for yourself, be that happy, loved, free, successful, rich and generous person, I would love to see all of us becoming champions.

Here’s Part 13: Be Remarkable, create things that are closest to perfection, pay attention to detail.

I was not born a detail-oriented person. I’m good at dreaming, however I’ve always thought details were beneath myself – that was few years ago, and I had paid a lot for my ignorance to details.

I started working 8 years ago as a junior stockbroker who performed stock & bond transactions on behalf of clients. My job was literally entering BUY and SELL orders into computers at lightening speed. Imagine – You just sit there and type BUY/SELL x amount of A stock at B price, repeatedly, for 4 hours per day, every single day for 3 years.

The job was super boring, however it was an excellent job to begin with, because you CAN NOT make any mistake (or your typo will translate into thousands or tens of thousands of dollars damage after a few seconds). I made less than 10 mistakes in 3 years, nevertheless my company had to cover thousands of dollars for my mistakes, and because of that I rarely received my salary – I learnt a lot from those 3 years – yourself and maybe even someone else will have to pay for your mistake not paying attention to detail.

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In the world where on one side, the internet allows everyone to be a big picture thinker (and talk loudly) and on the other side, everyone is trying to offer cheaper products – then what will differentiate doers from talkers and expensive from cheap? One word – Remarkable.

For a minute, let’s think of ourselves as a commodity, a good on the (human resource) market. The fact is – Everyone out there is trying to offer cheaper products, many people are more than ready to do your job for a lower paycheck and there will be at least a few men/women that want to offer themselves (for free) to your significant other.

As consumers, many times we can find a cheaper/easier option. So as consumers, this is what we are looking for: Best value (for money and/or efforts) – consumers look for the best bundle available.

How to make the best bundle on the market at a certain price? You cut the gross margin out of the equation, then you work around your resources to create something that is closest to perfection (make sure it’s way better than anything with the same pricing). For example, if you want a $xxxx salary, you better know how deliver at least tens of times your salary if not more, in order to compete with people that only ask for $xxx to do the same job. Perfect yourself, pay attention to detail – dress appropriately, behave, focus on creating values and solving problems – you’ll end up with a lot more.

NO ONE, yes, NO ONE will give you money (or love or anything) without receiving the best bundle they are paying for, in term of money and efforts and sentiment (please give me a reason why they should).

That’s it for today and I’ll come back with Step 14 tomorrow, I promise you (and myself). One thing I picked up from looking at a good picture – every detail,
everything in it sells.

– Skye

Ride

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“I once had dreams of becoming a beautiful poet, but upon an unfortunate series of events saw those dreams dashed and divided like a million stars in the night sky that I wished on over and over again, sparkling and broken. But I didn’t really mind because I knew that it takes getting everything you ever wanted, and then losing it to know what true freedom is.

I was in the winter of my life, and the strangers I met along the road were my only summer and my memories of them were the only things that sustained me, and my only real happy times.

I hear the birds on the summer breeze,
I drive fast, I am alone in midnight
Been tryin’ hard not to get into trouble,
But I, I’ve got a war in my mind
So, I just ride…”

How to get Everything you want (12)

I’m back with Part 12 of How to get Everything you want.

As promised, may I present to you the (marvelous) painting I’ve just bought:

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I’m so very proud of my new “window”. I will bring it to my new home in London and hang it on the wall where there’s no window. Next thing to do, look at it everyday and witness infinity, a.k.a. my colorful past, present and future.

Alright, let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

Part 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Part 10: Be patient while accumulating (please don’t be patient sitting there doing nothing).

Part 11: Be happy living frugally, then (one day) you can have it all and will still be happy, then (one day) you may lose everything and will still be happy.

I was thinking about Part 12 earlier then asked myself – Why am I writing this series? Well, I’m obviously no one to tell you or lecture you about how to do things and how to live your own life. However (1) I wanted to write myself a manual (2) I wanted to share some of my stories with you (3) I wanted to test myself to see if I have what it takes to be a happy, loved, free, successful, rich and generous person, all in one. In other words – Do I want Everything I want enough to work hard, sacrifice, be disciplined and get things done?

Here’s Step 12: Test yourself to see if you have what it takes to get Everything you want.

What can be a good test? I have one:

Change your life (for the better) in measurable ways in 90 days. Set yourself a 3 month challenge – make something happen.

I have always (subconsciously) functioned on a 90-day-calendar. Moreover, whenever I got (very) stuck and wanted to turn my life up-side-down completely, I set myself a 3-month-challenge. Seriously (I don’t know if I was born this way but) I don’t even know how giving up looks like. Life goes on and I just don’t have the ability to deal with any (stupid) status quo, I either solve it or leave it. In conclusion – statistically, in a year of mine, there are three 90-day-calendars & one 3-month-challenge. My 3-month-challenge of 2014 can be found here (it’s kinda long and is currently in Vietnamese, so if you are interested please use Google translate).

Recently when I started looking around for different ways of planning, the 3-month- challenge turned out to be quite favored by many game changers (yes, you don’t need years to change your life). Watch this, it’s a good example:

How to get Everything you want series is a part of my 3-month-challenge this year from beginning of June to end of August, which happens to be my transition period from Vietnam to the UK. I challenged myself, during this 3 month, to (1) handle my current job in artful ways ’til the last day I’m on duty (2) reflect about the last 5 years and plan for the next 5 years (3) handle my transition to London smoothly in term of relationships, everything else is pretty easy (4) write myself an useful document, which turned out to be what we are reading now (5) work on my future businesses: finish core identity concepts, get some good ideas, sketch some business models, look into some value chains, legal stuff, etc.

Let me tell you, it takes A LOT of work and focus to execute your 3-month-challenge. The reason it’s called a challenge but 90-day-calendar is because it’s a sprint. You can’t sprint everyday, all year round, you’ll die. Nevertheless the 3-month-challenge is extremely powerful in case you need to either (1) finish something (2) start something new (3) manage any turn-around. 

All you need to do now, if you’re ready to make great things happen, is to (1) decide how you want your life to look like after 3 months, be specific (2) sprint, focus, be disciplined and just work for the next 90 days and see what will happen.

– Skye

How to get Everything you want (11)

I’m back with Part 11 of How to get Everything you want.

I bought a painting this afternoon. Well, actually I’d just deposited because I didn’t bring enough money. I will show you when I bring it home, I promise. For now I’m working around my cash flow spreadsheet to find room for the painting (personal finance itself is a huge topic, I’m still trying to manage my money better and will surely write about it later).

I talked to the gallery’s owner while browsing around:

– I like this painting. The artist must have liked (looking out of) windows enough to paint a window and the colorful life outside. I love looking out of windows too, I take pictures of windows and the outside world all the time. Let me show you some of my pics.

– Actually I painted the piece – he said – and I think we have something in common.

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(This is one of my windows pictures)

In short, maybe because we had something in common, the artist named an almost unreal price for a very original and sensational (and huge) piece of art – $xxx – “Just for fun, I like that you like it!”, he said.

Still, it was not cheap at all according to my paycheck. Sometimes people do say –Why arts while you still have to worry about making a living? – And maybe (just maybe) they are right. Nevertheless, let me take my chance today to convince you (and to remind myself) to live an artful but affordable life (while working hard to get everything we want).

But first, let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

Part 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Part 10: Be patient while accumulating (please don’t be patient sitting there doing nothing).

Trust me, life can get really stressful and even meaningless if you think too much and work too hard all the time. That’s why Step 11 is very important, here it is:

Part 11: Be happy living frugally, then (one day) you can have it all and will still be happy, then (one day) you may lose everything and will still be happy.

You don’t have to agree with me but I strongly believe that – Whatever we do, in order to get more money, relationships, power, freedom, etc. – will only matter if we are gonna be happy in the end. There’s a high chance that you will get what (you think) you really want and don’t feel happy (for long) at all.

Ironically, happiness and contentment do not cost a lot. We can get so much more for so much less. And who am I to tell you that? I (don’t just travel but) move around a lot – I learn from it and I want to share my experience with you, take it as an example and design your own artful-life formula.

My magnificent life (including my glamorous walk-in wardrobe and artworks) needs to fit perfectly into 2 big suitcases. After a decade of packing and unpacking, I’m quite confident to say that I’m now quite good at making life pleasant without possessing a lot:

Less is more 

Many of us (including my younger self) get it wrong all the time. “Less is more” doesn’t mean living cheaply, it means do not buy things that give you burdens and/or distractions; buy things that you need and/or give you inspirations; then you’ll have more space & ideas in your head for more important stuff.

Eat well. Sleep well. Get a good health insurance.

Eat well: Don’t eat too much. Eating too much brings you nothing but diseases. Spend some time and money online or with a doctor to build some healthy diets with ingredients that are easy to source. Spoil yourself on weekends.

Sleep well: Prayers (and a nice bed) guarantee you a good sleep almost every night.

Health insurance: I’d spent few years of my life under depression & being physically ill, I had some experience – the most economical way to get medical and psychological treatments is to get a good health insurance. A good health insurance is a life saver every time, you never know what might happen. Also, don’t work for any employer who doesn’t pay for your health insurance.

Ask for help 

It’s nothing shameful about asking for help from friends, partner, family, coaches or even psychologists (just try your best not to ask for money).

Time is the most valuable thing, not Money

In fact, Money is only a tool to trade values. Waste your time only when you feel like wasting it (and you should, life’s too short). Otherwise, focus on making things happen and delivering values to the world (guess what, money will follow).

Do things the ways you like WITH consideration of opportunity costs.

I’m a very complicated person with very specific needs – I don’t drive, I don’t like to sleep on a modest bed, I don’t like to live in an ugly house, etc. Sounds scary? Well, if I wanted to live the ways I wanted, I’d have to (1) make enough money (2) sacrifice other spendings (3) find a job that supplies some of the needs (4) build my own business(es) that function the way I want. Simple, however easier said than done.

The house

A big house is a house, a small house is a house. YOUR house is THE house. Buying a house when you still have to think about money is like tying your own hands (and legs). Unless you want to settle, give a nice rented apartment a few years try.

My definition of My house: lots of natural light, my favourite paintings & sculptures, a good bed and nice scents. How much do those things cost? A lot of effort and not a lot of money. YOUR house is THE house. Make it YOUR house. 

Audrey Hepburn? I have lots of respect for her, but you don’t go on red carpet everyday do you?

Do you notice that only cheap clothing stores stock a lot of clothes on their racks? In other words, be expensive – You should be able to stock all your killers in a suitcase and go on killing. The secret is: Own a few high quality and timeless and comfortable stuff.

With all my worship to fashion, I swear to God these are all I often carry with myself when I move around: The men shirts (to me women shirts are waste of money), the jeans, the black heels, the black flats, the dark leather bags (small, med, big, enough), the silk dress, the linen dress, the cotton dress, the cashmere sweaters, the linen scarf, the cashmere scarf, the formal attires, the gown, the trench coat, the black blazer, the big sunglasses, the big hat.

The most expensive painting on earth

My favourite part of this article – Why arts while you still have to worry about making a living?
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This is the most expensive painting on earth – It was sold for $37,125,000

Make your own judgement. The point is – The most powerful meaning of (even) the most expensive artworks on earth is to give you a pleasant state of mind. I buy paintings (which I really like) because they make me feel good looking at them and give me inspirations to do things. And you don’t even have to buy anything, just go to a museum or paint yourself the most expensive painting on earth if you would like to.

Buy things that gain value over time 

A diamond is an excellent example – Why diamonds are better than a saving account? Not (only) because a diamond represents a forever love (such naive belief), but a diamond is literally a DOUBLE saving account. I mean, who would see your saving account and praise it everyday? Plus saving accounts in most local currencies will just lose their values to inflation. If you do have your $10k saving account, get rid of it and go buy a big fat happy diamond (and an insurance, you never know). Sell the stone when you need money (or when you have grown apart from it).

Go online happily 

Block everything and people that annoy you. Don’t read news everyday, they’re toxics.

Invest in yourself, protect your heart

F**KING OWN YOUR LIFE: Make plans, love, work, play, learn, read books, party, whatever and make it clear: NO GOOD HEART TO JERKS (you’ll meet a lot of them).

– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (10)

I’m back with Part 10 of How to get Everything you want.

At the beginning, let me share with you some personal thoughts as usual – this part is gonna be a ‘lil bit longer today, because – facts (the later part) lead us to the light of mind, fictions on the other hand lead us to the light of heart – I personally think personal stories are important for human.

The past few days have been an emotional challenge to me. I’m moving to London therefore have been wrapping things up. I’m excited about the future and at the same time I’m sad. I have been waking up seeing the current stage of my life passing so fast towards my back, which means: very soon I’ll no longer live in same house, go to the same office, see the same people and this chapter of my life is gonna be done, I won’t come back. There will be people that I might never see again. Honestly, I have been saying a lot of Goodbyes lately and tried hard to do it with a pokerface every time.

Guess what? After all I’m a human and (thank God) I have feelings. This inevitable “to feel or not to feel” sadness has been my good friends for years. I’ve been moving around too much, like my best friend said – “chucking carton boxes and doing the vanishing act the next, to a different city or even a different country”. The global life is glamorous, however it’s not as easy as it sounds, not at all. In fact, it requires a lot of self-defeating acts, at least emotionally. Places – they are full of memories – happy, sad, good, bad, hysterical and unforgettable. From thousands miles away, years later, I could still imagine the streets I walked, the sound of the nights, the people, the moments…

An American friend of mine said something to me yesterday after I’d said goodbye to him (maybe for good) – “Adios Amigo”

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“Adios Amigo” means “Goodbye, My Friend!” – Everyday in life we meet people, sometimes we (happen to) get along, become colleagues, friends, close friends, etc. Then life goes on (forever), many times we would have to say goodbye, move on and do our own things, work hard to get what we really want. The (only) thing that really matters to me is that – we could (firstly) be good friends, be honest to each other and genuinely hope for the best for everyone’s lives. Goodbyes might not always be beautiful, but “Adios Amigo” – being able to say so, we know we have no regret – that’s important.

Alright, let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

Part 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

I know Part 9 is a tricky one; I’ll leave it to you to decide who to keep around yourself regularly.

Here’s Part 10: Be patient while accumulating (please don’t be patient sitting there doing nothing).

Accumulation is a nice word – I wrote about it briefly back in 2009:

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Translation:

In accumulating stages, almost everything we encounter contains some potential and unpredictable possibilities, most of which are positive and are quite interesting to predict. Why are they interesting? Because things go up and down (and up and down and up and down), the middle parts between ups and downs are actually accumulating stages.

Once we accept the fact that What goes up Must come down (and up and down), accumulating stages are rare moments when the orbit slows down and gives us a boarder perspective of the whole landscape. The progression of the next (up or down) circle will then happen so naturally that sometimes we don’t even realize it’s happening. The real challenge is – being able to (zoom in and zoom out frequently to) catch the rhythm.

Looking back, I can’t believe I wrote this passage when I was 19. However I know the reason: It was right after the 2008 financial crisis when I was forced to leave Law school in Australia. I spent 2008 & 2009 in great depression, I was shocked and was literally receiving psychological treatment while (still) needed to go to school and worked as a stockbroker everyday. I remember locking myself in the toilet of the company crying many times because it was too much, life was so hard.

One day when I was crying, the boss knocked on the door of the toilet, asked me out and said something that changed everything:

“Look, I know what’s happening to you, I know it’s a hard time for you and for all of us. You can see how’s the market performing and we are cutting 70% of our headcount. You stay because you cost almost nothing. Myself wished to wake up today and this mess was over. But here it is, so stay with me, take it as the worst day of your life, then tomorrow things can only get better. Life will pick up again, much sooner than you think. For now, be patient, work hard and don’t be too hard on yourself. This, too, shall pass.”

I know it sounds crazy to say that: I’m grateful that (I think) I’ve witnessed the worst days of my life. After a very bad day, things can only get better; I just need to work hard and be patient (back in 2009 it meant to get a Bachelor degree). And if sometimes things get bad or require more work and patience, I’m not scared – Been there, done that.

I’m not saying that you must witness the worst days of your life in order to be a better person; but it helps if we take a positive view on changes, be patient, work hard, prepare yourself for the next (up and down) circle. Ironically, we have to prepare ourselves much better for great things that happen, because (naturally) they are followed by (not necessarily bad stuff but) even greater challenges.

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– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (9)

I’m back with Part 9 of How to get Everything you want

I know, I missed my deadline (which was 2 days ago) that I promised you (and myself), again. I’m sorry, I should give more realistic deadlines when it comes to hard problems to solve (or to write about).

This step was so difficult for me to publish because it’s very personal. I’m about to tell you to do something that (most of the time) will break your heart. As I was writing, examples (of my own actions) broke my heart too. Nevertheless I think it’s a very crucial thing to do, in order to get everything we want, therefore I’m here writing to you.

But first, let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

Part 8: DO your best everyday (for yourself first), the rest will come.

I hope that for the past few days, you have completed 3 most important tasks of each day and have been able to tell yourself before going to bed – “I couldn’t have done it any better (today)!”

Here’s Step 9: Select the people that you keep (closely) around yourself.

Let me share with you a story. It begins with a picture that I drew a while ago (my drawing is terrible, he’d be very angry):

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We first met in a very cold winter night – 6th January few years ago. I had submitted a desk research about his company to my professor that morning and later on found the exact same guy standing next to me at a bar. He drove me home that night.

In short, we dated briefly then decided to remain friends. Despite ups and downs, we have managed to stay great friends until recently when my life has (eventually) picked up a bit (because I’ve been working like hell for years). He has told me “not to be too positive while sharing great news about your life with people”. I think what he really meant was: “Don’t let people think that you’ve lost your humility and keep yourself away from haters.” and he had good attention. However the same talks have gradually become very uncomfortable, at one point I just asked him to stay away from me (for now). I might be wrong and ruthless (to myself too) but I was thinking rationally while doing so.

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People (both your loved ones and haters) will tell you all the time about what they think you should do. Let’s not talk about haters, many times your closed ones will tell you to comply and conceal yourself (because they actually worry that you’ll get hurt). Keep a distance for a while, do your things and see how it goes. Isolation will break your heart but you have to train yourself to focus and to not listen to noise.

I’m not saying that you should kick anyone out of your life, however,

In daily life, surround yourself with and create attachment with positive people that you can actually discuss with and find solutions to get yourself to where you want to be.

Choose your teammates carefully, because you would need an A+ team to make dreams come true. 

How about the rest of people, what should we do with them?

Well, to people that really matter to you in some ways or another, take any chance you have to remind them that: I may not love you the way you want me to; but that doesn’t mean I don’t love you with all my heart. Which means: The love itself is unquestionable, however everyone has (tons of) work to be done, has only one life to live, has dreams to be created. If we can’t agree on the same directions then just let each other go (for a while) and do our own things. The love is there, forever.

-Skye