How to get Everything you want (6)

I’m back with Part 6 of How to get Everything you want.

You might have wondered if I’d written the whole series and am publishing one chapter everyday. No, I’m actually writing Part 6 right now. I do have the master concept in mind, however I don’t have a detailed map of the series I’m writing. I guess I’ve been doing a lot of R&D over the years, nevertheless processing resources into arts is the following (and separated) process. And you know what, arts happen when we (learn to) function without an existing map.

I do have a deadline though. Last Friday I promised you (and myself) that I’d write this article next Monday (which is today). I then went on a weekend family road trip. I had so much fun with the cousins and enjoyed family in-jokes. I stopped thinking about work, but I remembered my deadline. So here I am, writing.

Yes, I’m telling you that no (great) thing is gonna be achieved without a deadline. Your productivity & ideas are best friends with deadlines (if you take them seriously). For now I don’t know how Part 6’s gonna look like in detail when it’s finished. It however will be delivered on time and it’s gonna be great (because I’m a person of my word).

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

I hope that you did your homework – you have researched, asked people that have some experience and read some books about things you are interested in.

Here’s Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Here’s the definition of an ambitious (but doable) dream:

An ambitious (but doable) dream is something which you decide that you can achieve by do things differently and better. “It’s really a mindset – you have to decide that you’d do something differently and better. You can’t just do things differently because the ways of doing are different. You have to decide – let’s think beyond the normal stuff.”

If you eventually decide that your dream’s worth a try – JUST DO IT – do something differently and (in some ways) more compelling than anyone around you (or better, anyone on earth) has ever done it:

“Don’t be afraid of new arenas, you can get a book, you can learn something, experiment with you hands and make it happen or find a way or make a way to get something done.”

But please remember one very important thing:

“You know – JUST DO IT – just showing up is half the battle. You gotta try hard and don’t be afraid of failure, BUT you also need to be rooted in reality. You gotta not be afraid to innovate but also don’t delude yourself into thinking something is working when it isn’t.

May I introduce you to the guy behind all 3 quotes in this article – his name is Elon: 


I’ve always believed in God, but I’d never believed in human power until someone introduced Elon to me:

Elon Reeve Musk is a South African-born, Canadian-American business magnate, engineer, inventor and investor. He is the CEO and CTO of SpaceX, CEO and product architect of Tesla Motors, and chairman of SolarCity. Net worth: 11.9 billion USD (2015) Forbes.

Just another rich guy –  I thought so too. But (earlier this year) once I read the first article about Elon and his companies, I couldn’t help myself but spent the next few weeks reading hundreds of articles and watched hundreds of videos (of Elon and his companies). Lately award winning writer Ashlee Vance has written an excellent biography of Elon (Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX, and the Quest for a Fantastic Future), in which contained one paragraph that pretty much summed up hundreds of videos and articles that I’ve watched and read:


I was touched by one number in this paragraph, 2008, it clicked right away. Here’s why:

It’s a very vague thing of me to say that you have to always (try your best to) balance risks, failure and reality. I however can give a good example of how to keep yourself focused it tough times, by telling my own story about the year 2008 (which was for me nothing less than that of Elon):

At the beginning of 2008, I was enrolled at a prestigious Law school in Australia and was then living in a city apartment owned by the university. I wasn’t a spoiled kid, I was doing well at school and lived quite frugally despite the luxurious housing (I was forced to live there because I was then underage). Life was great, until the financial market collapsed one day (and my parents happened to invest in a lot stocks).

My life turned up-side-down after a month, financially, let alone my boyfriend that suddenly dated my best friend. It was no fun, everyone was in pain. I (with the unbelievable support from my family) needed to make hard choices – No to Love (actually no time to worry about Love), No to Law School, Yes to worldwide recognized university education, No to Australia, Yes to Vietnam, No to Luxury, Yes to Part time job, No to Map, Yes to Unknowns… 

During a very hard time (probably the worst time in my life so far) and in the middle of every chaos & personal turbulence that anyone could hardly imagine, I needed to make endless clear decisions to keep one crucial short term plan alive – worldwide recognized university education – and kill other (isn’t working) dreams, in order to gain needed educational resources to achieve my ambitious (but doable) dreams later on.

How to always keep your mind clear (and make good long term decisions)?

You sort of need to ZOOM OUT at the end of each day and look at the whole process. Stick (only) to the most crucial short term goals that (are most likely to) produce viable resources for your long term goals. And (maybe a good thing), no time to worry about love, miseries or hope – make decisions fast, move on and work hard!

– Skye 


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