I’m back with Part5 of How to get Everything you want.
To be honest, my wisdom teeth have been running wild (again) today. I wished I could just stay home, do nothing, eat my comfort food, watch movies and tell the teeth to calm down. Guess what, life goes on. I have projects to run at work and I’ve promised you (and myself) yesterday that I’d write this article. So here I am, fulfilling my promise.
Yes, I’m telling you that your (not serious enough) personal pains are not (good enough) excuses to not deliver. Everyone has his own personal pains, and life goes on. So I took my pain killers and endured. We can always do what we humans do best – Endure.
Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:
How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)
I hope that you now have your A—>B agenda written down (and your destination B scares the hell out of you).
Here’s Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).
Let’s come back to my A—>B agenda:
A: Skye is a communications personnel. She has been moving to another country (or city) every 2 years, therefore hasn’t been able to date anyone for long.
B: Skye owns some lifestyle & fashion businesses, a gallery, some islands. Skye has her name printed on some rockets. Skye has written a few wonderful books and still writes and paints everyday.
Skye’s lover adores her as much as she adores him. They create their (financially and spiritually) free and magical life around the world. They create something together and something of their own. They discuss. They sail and fly and walk and work and love. They know that “the end(s) of the world” are North Pole and South Pole and they can actually go there together, one at the time.
I’ll pick one scary outcome: Skye owns some islands.
How on earth can I (ever) own some islands? – Correct. That’s the correct question.
You know what, I might have had a hard time figure it out before the internet existed. I might have had to go to some libraries and ask the librarians another question: Which book can show me How on earth can I (ever) own some islands?
Nowadays there’s one oracle named Google. I’m quite good friends with him, therefore I ask him about almost everything almost everyday, even the (seemingly) impossibles:
See, this Google guy has an idea. Actually, he has a lot of ideas. Dude, he’s an oracle (the right thing to say is – he owns collective human knowledge).
However, it’s your job to pick your favourite ideas. Skim through the oracle’s (top) picks, refine your search, narrow down to (preferably) one single idea that most caught your eyes (and heart). Then you have 2 choices (you can do both, even greater):
1. Ask someone whom actually knows the business
In my case, I (literally) sent an email yesterday morning, asking a travel expert about buying islands (with little money) at a specific country, Cambodia (again, the idea caught my eyes):
You know what – many times people don’t know what to do AND they don’t ask (people whom know the business).
Please, dare to ask. There’s nothing scary or shameful about asking for help. If people know the answer, (most of the time) they will tell you and/or introduce you to someone that actually knows the business (I’m not kidding, people are more generous than you think):
I have a long history of nailing people down and ask questions and keep asking questions. Some of my clients & advisors joke all the time that “She (myself) is always at my back”. Well, I guess if I don’t know about something and I don’t ask, I’ll never know.
2. Find out and read the best book(s) about the topic
I guarantee you that – there’ll be at least one person out there who’d had the similar question(s) AND had written a book about how he solved the problem(s).
Don’t waste your time, look for the best books about a specific topic. By ‘the best’ I meant ‘validated’. Seek help from our oracle friend Google to find out the highest rated books (read all top 3 then you’re in a decent position).
Here’s the thing, read with an open heart. Be prepared – Great writers may change your point of views. In the end you might cancel your current A—>B agenda (I might eventually come to a conclusion that islands are not that great to own) and start from scratch again. And it may not (always) be a bad happening.
Listen to critics, but make your own judgements – “Only you know how much you like the girl.”