How to get Everything you want (4)

I’m back with Part 4 of How to get Everything you want.

I know I missed my deadline yesterday, which I promised you (and myself). I wouldn’t if I didn’t have to. I had a tough day at work and I couldn’t do my writing afterwards. And you know what, things happen – You promised you’d do something, then something (bad) came up and you couldn’t fulfill your promise.

Yes, things happen, and (most of the time) it’s not the end of the world. If you are a woman, sometimes you (may need to) take contraceptive pills. You have to take those pills everyday in order not to get pregnant or make your skin better or keep your feminine circle in place. Read the instruction, if you miss one pill, there’s no problem, things are gonna be okay. However if you miss 2 (or more) pills, you’re in trouble.

If you are a man, I feel so sorry for you since you always have to be a man. You have to be strong and impeccable all the time. You are not allowed to cry (easily). Well, we all know that, at the end of the day, you are a human-being – you have emotions, you have bad days, sometimes you need to take a day off, few times a week you need to go out with the boys, get drunk, recharge and can’t always fulfill your duties – trust me, real women and reasonable people respect you for your disappearance (because then you wouldn’t put your anger and frustration on us).

The thing is, do whatever you need to do for yourself, even if you really need to disappoint people sometimes. However, don’t make excuses, say Sorry (to yourself too) and don’t give guilt, laziness and resistance a chance to keep yourself from getting back to fulfill your promises. Come back and get the work done, the sooner the better.

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

I hope that even though I was not there yesterday, you took your (second) walk and enjoyed your best dreams . I’ll take it for granted that you’ve done your work with Step 1 & 2.

Here’s Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

I’ve told you earlier that – yesterday I had a tough (not bad) day at work. Here’s the full story:

I’m leading a project and it’s coming to the end, which means: The deadline is set, things will happen no matter what, therefore (1) I can not run out of money and (2) all my stakeholders need to do their work, according to my agenda, despite their own agendas.

However, everyone has his own agenda, thus everyone (1) wants to get (part of) my resources to fulfill his own agenda and (2) needs time to do other works. In order to sustain my project and to ship on time, I’ve had to say No a lot (to requests for extra resources); I’ve had to put disciplines on people and at the same time encourage them. By 6pm yesterday, I was burnt out, I’d had too much I wanted to cry.

Today I pulled myself out of office and stayed home. I put everything (including everyone’s requests) into consideration and worked on the final executive agenda. In other words, I pulled myself out of everyone’s agendas to focus on the project’s agenda. If you want to lead (at least your life), you have to be able to stay focus and, too, be able to execute and/or control the execution, every details of it if you need to (no one knows the master agenda better than you do, right?). You can not finish any project by giving random orders. Once you declare war, you better have an agenda in place, or better, have already known the series of orders to your army.

Now, say you went for the walk mentioned in Part 3, you’ve figured out you biggest dreams – that’s your B. You’re now at A. Get yourself a paper, draw your master agenda from A to B. I called the document A—>B agenda, it literally looks very complicated:

a-to-b

Draw it down. This is my A—>B agenda (for now):

A: Skye is a communications personnel. She has been moving to another country (or city) every 2 years, therefore hasn’t been able to date anyone for long.

B: Skye owns some lifestyle & fashion businesses, a gallery, some islands. Skye has her name printed on some rockets. Skye has written a few wonderful books and still writes and paints everyday.

Skye’s lover adores her as much as she adores him. They create their (financially and spiritually) free and magical life around the world. They create something together and something of their own. They discuss. They sail and fly and walk and work and love. They know that “the end(s) of the world” are North Pole and South Pole and they can actually go there together, one at the time.

My dreams are quite simple I must say. How about yours? If your dreams don’t scare the hell out of you. Dream bigger.

Now let me introduce you to something very scary, it’s called the Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk). It was first presented to me by Seth Godin in his book “Linchpin”:

Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk) is a crowdsourcing Internet marketplace that enables individuals and businesses (known as Requesters) to coordinate the use of human intelligence to perform tasks that computers are currently unable to do.

Which means:

Any project can be broken down into very small tasks. When some tasks can not be performed by computers or robots, we can just list them on Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk) – Done. The A—>B agenda is expensive, the actual work is pretty cheap. I mean, you have a marketplace of human, all are racing to offer you the cheapest rate for completing a task. The smaller the task, the cheaper. If you can break your A—>B agenda down into very small and simple tasks, you’ll get things done almost for free.

Every company is a smaller version of the Amazon Mechanical Turk. The company’s owner has his A—>B agenda, you’re one human in his marketplace. Sorry, he’s not gonna pay you better if you’re (just) okay. There’ll always be someone that offers to perform the same task at a cheaper price. He’ll replace you. That’s how the businessman makes the most out of his margin, therefore makes more profit right.

High-level people (directors, managers) get paid so much more to solve much more complex problems, which the computers and majority of the human marketplace can not solve. Will you be one of those whom get paid so much more if you’re doing just okay, or slightly better? And that’s not even the point. The point is – Both of you are still parts of the Amazon Mechanical Turk, you’re in your biggest boss’s A—>B agenda. Do you see the truth now?

To sum up, Seth Godin (you seriously should check him out) once said:

“If your agenda is set by someone else and it doesn’t lead you where you want to go, why is it your agenda?”

So unplug yourself from everyone’s agendas. Go out, get yourself a coffee, create your own A—>B agenda, start designing your Amazon Mechanical Turk, get all your resources into work. You’ll see your dreams come true. And it’s not magic, especially when I’ve just explained to you the physic.

– Skye 

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2 thoughts on “How to get Everything you want (4)

  1. Wow, those are already SO GREAT, SKYE! I love your insight! I am definitely a big believer in A->B… it’s interesting how many people do not operate that way. It’s direct, no-nonsense, and it keeps you focused and on track, ready and confident to accomplish goals like crossing items off of a grocery list! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. This was a pleasure to read and I am looking forward to number 5!

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    • Thank you. I wanted to write this series for myself also. I sort of go through the process over and over, subconsciously. Now that I’ve been writing it down, I’m kinda surprised too. I’m glad you like it. Thanks for reading.

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