As promised yesterday, I’m back with Part 2 of How to get Everything you want.
Let’s revise our journey until now:
How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)
I hope that you’ve taken time to note down your vision(s) about yourself, your life. It’s very important to have good ideas about those, otherwise we’re lost.
Here’s Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!
Why do you need to be grateful for what you have?
To begin with, many people think having more is equal to happiness; I’m one of those.
It’s been around 7 years since I first got paid for my first part-time job as a stockbroker (via telephone). My salary itself has since increased by 15 times, let alone the benefits and perks (I always make sure that I demand for the maximum package possible). I’ve moved out of family and am now living in a very nice (rented) apartment. I’m able to travel around and buy mostly every fashion item that the girl in me would desire for. I’m telling you, I still come home after work and question myself almost everyday: “This is not enough. I want more. I’m not doing good enough.”
Recently I had lunch with my friend Stephen (not his real name), whom was (and is still) a hugely successful entrepreneur in Europe during the dot-com era. Stephen came from an upper class family in the UK. He had a very stylish lifestyle until he got out of college. THEN WHAT? He backpacked around the world, common story. Here’s what he’d told me during our lunch:
“I met people whom possessed so much less, people whom were very poor; some of them were miserable, however a lot of them were very happy. They laughed genuinely, went to sleep peacefully. My encounters back then changed my perspectives completely. My life was too easy, I had too much in England, I took all for granted, I wanted more and I was not fully happy. I knew I needed to do something.”
Stephen made a very good point – You (and I) either live happily in our present or we’d need to do something to be (fully) happy.
On one side, if you are looking for happiness, taking more risk or creating more surplus may only bring you to that infinite race with your ego, you’ll never be satisfied. So count what you have, if you have possessed enough, it’s time to enjoy freedom and happiness… for a while.
On the other side, if you still want more in term of possession, counting what you have will give you a good view about your current resources. No one can start a project without resources, yet you have to acknowledge of: What you’re grateful for enough not to risk them (all) to get something else? Those might be your loved ones, your health, your house… be grateful for their presence and hold on to them dearly. You’re then free (in mind) to risk everything else.
Why do you have to be grateful for what you don’t yet have?
Now that you have your resources, you know what you will risk and what you will not risk to get things you really want, time to start working.
Again, if something is rewarding and important enough for you to dream of, then please be grateful for it in advance. Believe in your dream as if you’ve already nailed it.
Why? Because if you dream big enough, it’s not gonna be easy, the work is gonna be really really really hard. Most of the time when your dream is big enough, people will say you are crazy, they’ll laugh at your face, they’ll try to stop you (because they obviously don’t want you to be better than who they are).
Worse, some people will try to convince you that you’re not good enough. Worst, you are convinced. So write your dream down on a piece of paper, stick it on the wall in front of your bed, read it (out loud) to yourself every morning every night, get obsessed and just forget about hope and work like hell. That way you’ll focus on the work but the noise around you. You’ll get there if you just focus on the work and keep going.
You have to believe me. Obama made it through the hardest recruitment on earth, he became the U.S. President (a.k.a the man with NUCLEAR POWER). Here’s what he’d recently told Human of New York:
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“When is the time you felt most broken?”
“I first ran for Congress in 1999, and I got beat. I just got whooped. I had been in the state legislature for a long time, I was in the minority party, I wasn’t getting a lot done, and I was away from my family and putting a lot of strain on Michelle. Then for me to run and lose that bad, I was thinking maybe this isn’t what I was cut out to do. I was forty years old, and I’d invested a lot of time and effort into something that didn’t seem to be working. But the thing that got me through that moment, and any other time that I’ve felt stuck, is to remind myself that it’s about the work. Because if you’re worrying about yourself—if you’re thinking: ‘Am I succeeding? Am I in the right position? Am I being appreciated?’ — then you’re going to end up feeling frustrated and stuck. But if you can keep it about the work, you’ll always have a path. There’s always something to be done.”
That’s it for today. I do have a full time job and (too bad) I will (need to) come back to it now. Nevertheless I promised you yesterday to deliver this article, I made it. I hope that you’ve too fulfilled your promise to someone today; or got important stuff done.