How to get Everything you want (7)

I’m back with Part 7 of How to get Everything you want.

I’m writing this when I’ve suddenly got stuck at writing. There’s one concrete truth: I can’t seem to put any concrete conclusion into words at the moment. Yes, we do get stuck sometimes, it happens, especially when we’re trying to make great and difficult things happen (well if no one gets stuck, at some points, while making dreams happen then we should all be drunk celebrating by now). Let me write about getting stuck then.

But first, let’s take a selfie of the new you who is now in control of your own destiny. I’m on the same bus, here’s my selfie of the day – “I’m Queen of my own destiny”:

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Here’s our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

When you’ve decided that you’d start working hard to turn an ambitious (but doable) dream into reality, then you got stuck sometimes (as I do now), do this:

Part 7: When you get stuck, unplug yourself from work for a while, go out and enjoy life. Set yourself time to come back to work.

That’s exactly what I’m gonna do for the rest of the week. I will travel to my favorite region of Vietnam, the Mekong Delta.

I will come back with Part 8 next Monday, I promise you (and myself). For now I’ll just slow myself down and soak in river life. I know I will find inspirations.

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– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (6)

I’m back with Part 6 of How to get Everything you want.

You might have wondered if I’d written the whole series and am publishing one chapter everyday. No, I’m actually writing Part 6 right now. I do have the master concept in mind, however I don’t have a detailed map of the series I’m writing. I guess I’ve been doing a lot of R&D over the years, nevertheless processing resources into arts is the following (and separated) process. And you know what, arts happen when we (learn to) function without an existing map.

I do have a deadline though. Last Friday I promised you (and myself) that I’d write this article next Monday (which is today). I then went on a weekend family road trip. I had so much fun with the cousins and enjoyed family in-jokes. I stopped thinking about work, but I remembered my deadline. So here I am, writing.

Yes, I’m telling you that no (great) thing is gonna be achieved without a deadline. Your productivity & ideas are best friends with deadlines (if you take them seriously). For now I don’t know how Part 6’s gonna look like in detail when it’s finished. It however will be delivered on time and it’s gonna be great (because I’m a person of my word).

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

I hope that you did your homework – you have researched, asked people that have some experience and read some books about things you are interested in.

Here’s Part 6: Differentiate between pure fairy tales and ambitious (but doable) dreams.

Here’s the definition of an ambitious (but doable) dream:

An ambitious (but doable) dream is something which you decide that you can achieve by do things differently and better. “It’s really a mindset – you have to decide that you’d do something differently and better. You can’t just do things differently because the ways of doing are different. You have to decide – let’s think beyond the normal stuff.”

If you eventually decide that your dream’s worth a try – JUST DO IT – do something differently and (in some ways) more compelling than anyone around you (or better, anyone on earth) has ever done it:

“Don’t be afraid of new arenas, you can get a book, you can learn something, experiment with you hands and make it happen or find a way or make a way to get something done.”

But please remember one very important thing:

“You know – JUST DO IT – just showing up is half the battle. You gotta try hard and don’t be afraid of failure, BUT you also need to be rooted in reality. You gotta not be afraid to innovate but also don’t delude yourself into thinking something is working when it isn’t.

May I introduce you to the guy behind all 3 quotes in this article – his name is Elon: 

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I’ve always believed in God, but I’d never believed in human power until someone introduced Elon to me:

Elon Reeve Musk is a South African-born, Canadian-American business magnate, engineer, inventor and investor. He is the CEO and CTO of SpaceX, CEO and product architect of Tesla Motors, and chairman of SolarCity. Net worth: 11.9 billion USD (2015) Forbes.

Just another rich guy –  I thought so too. But (earlier this year) once I read the first article about Elon and his companies, I couldn’t help myself but spent the next few weeks reading hundreds of articles and watched hundreds of videos (of Elon and his companies). Lately award winning writer Ashlee Vance has written an excellent biography of Elon (Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX, and the Quest for a Fantastic Future), in which contained one paragraph that pretty much summed up hundreds of videos and articles that I’ve watched and read:

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I was touched by one number in this paragraph, 2008, it clicked right away. Here’s why:

It’s a very vague thing of me to say that you have to always (try your best to) balance risks, failure and reality. I however can give a good example of how to keep yourself focused it tough times, by telling my own story about the year 2008 (which was for me nothing less than that of Elon):

At the beginning of 2008, I was enrolled at a prestigious Law school in Australia and was then living in a city apartment owned by the university. I wasn’t a spoiled kid, I was doing well at school and lived quite frugally despite the luxurious housing (I was forced to live there because I was then underage). Life was great, until the financial market collapsed one day (and my parents happened to invest in a lot stocks).

My life turned up-side-down after a month, financially, let alone my boyfriend that suddenly dated my best friend. It was no fun, everyone was in pain. I (with the unbelievable support from my family) needed to make hard choices – No to Love (actually no time to worry about Love), No to Law School, Yes to worldwide recognized university education, No to Australia, Yes to Vietnam, No to Luxury, Yes to Part time job, No to Map, Yes to Unknowns… 

During a very hard time (probably the worst time in my life so far) and in the middle of every chaos & personal turbulence that anyone could hardly imagine, I needed to make endless clear decisions to keep one crucial short term plan alive – worldwide recognized university education – and kill other (isn’t working) dreams, in order to gain needed educational resources to achieve my ambitious (but doable) dreams later on.

How to always keep your mind clear (and make good long term decisions)?

You sort of need to ZOOM OUT at the end of each day and look at the whole process. Stick (only) to the most crucial short term goals that (are most likely to) produce viable resources for your long term goals. And (maybe a good thing), no time to worry about love, miseries or hope – make decisions fast, move on and work hard!

– Skye 

“You look sad. If you could just make a sad face and ask for money then get it every time, you’d soon become a billionaire.”

My mom said something about money around 10 years ago (I was then asking her for some money) and it was genius: “You look sad. If you could just make a sad face and ask for money then get it every time, you’d soon become a billionaire. I should be the one whom looks sad, because I can’t say No to you and will give u the money without a repayment scheme anyway.”

That’s exactly it. There are funds which you can completely depend on without having to think about repayment, interest, whatever. Let’s put it this way, every government needs innovations, new weapons, secret competitive edges, problems solving… – those things (and probably you too) will be classified as national treasures. That’s it. You could just make a sad face about some problems then establish huge ventures with almost free capital. Next thing, blow those experiments up as many times as you wish (I’m kidding).

– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (5)

I’m back with Part5 of How to get Everything you want.

To be honest, my wisdom teeth have been running wild (again) today. I wished I could just stay home, do nothing, eat my comfort food, watch movies and tell the teeth to calm down. Guess what, life goes on. I have projects to run at work and I’ve promised you (and myself) yesterday that I’d write this article. So here I am, fulfilling my promise.

Yes, I’m telling you that your (not serious enough) personal pains are not (good enough) excuses to not deliver. Everyone has his own personal pains, and life goes on. So I took my pain killers and endured. We can always do what we humans do best – Endure.

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

I hope that you now have your A—>B agenda written down (and your destination B scares the hell out of you).

Here’s Part 5: Do your homework. Research. Get to know-how (at least theoretically).

Let’s come back to my A—>B agenda:

A: Skye is a communications personnel. She has been moving to another country (or city) every 2 years, therefore hasn’t been able to date anyone for long.

B: Skye owns some lifestyle & fashion businesses, a gallery, some islands. Skye has her name printed on some rockets. Skye has written a few wonderful books and still writes and paints everyday.

Skye’s lover adores her as much as she adores him. They create their (financially and spiritually) free and magical life around the world. They create something together and something of their own. They discuss. They sail and fly and walk and work and love. They know that “the end(s) of the world” are North Pole and South Pole and they can actually go there together, one at the time.

I’ll pick one scary outcome: Skye owns some islands.

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How on earth can I (ever) own some islands? – Correct. That’s the correct question.

You know what, I might have had a hard time figure it out before the internet existed. I might have had to go to some libraries and ask the librarians another question: Which book can show me How on earth can I (ever) own some islands?

Nowadays there’s one oracle named Google. I’m quite good friends with him, therefore I ask him about almost everything almost everyday, even the (seemingly) impossibles:

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See, this Google guy has an idea. Actually, he has a lot of ideas. Dude, he’s an oracle (the right thing to say is – he owns collective human knowledge).

However, it’s your job to pick your favourite ideas. Skim through the oracle’s (top) picks, refine your search, narrow down to (preferably) one single idea that most caught your eyes (and heart). Then you have 2 choices (you can do both, even greater):

1. Ask someone whom actually knows the business

In my case, I (literally) sent an email yesterday morning, asking a travel expert about buying islands (with little money) at a specific country, Cambodia (again, the idea caught my eyes):

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You know what – many times people don’t know what to do AND they don’t ask (people whom know the business).

Please, dare to ask. There’s nothing scary or shameful about asking for help. If people know the answer, (most of the time) they will tell you and/or introduce you to someone that actually knows the business (I’m not kidding, people are more generous than you think):

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I have a long history of nailing people down and ask questions and keep asking questions. Some of my clients & advisors joke all the time that “She (myself) is always at my back”. Well, I guess if I don’t know about something and I don’t ask, I’ll never know.

2. Find out and read the best book(s) about the topic 

I guarantee you that – there’ll be at least one person out there who’d had the similar question(s) AND had written a book about how he solved the problem(s).

Don’t waste your time, look for the best books about a specific topic. By ‘the best’ I meant ‘validated’. Seek help from our oracle friend Google to find out the highest rated books (read all top 3 then you’re in a decent position).

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Here’s the thing, read with an open heart. Be prepared – Great writers may change your point of views. In the end you might cancel your current A—>B agenda (I might eventually come to a conclusion that islands are not that great to own) and start from scratch again. And it may not (always) be a bad happening.

Listen to critics, but make your own judgements – “Only you know how much you like the girl.”

– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (4)

I’m back with Part 4 of How to get Everything you want.

I know I missed my deadline yesterday, which I promised you (and myself). I wouldn’t if I didn’t have to. I had a tough day at work and I couldn’t do my writing afterwards. And you know what, things happen – You promised you’d do something, then something (bad) came up and you couldn’t fulfill your promise.

Yes, things happen, and (most of the time) it’s not the end of the world. If you are a woman, sometimes you (may need to) take contraceptive pills. You have to take those pills everyday in order not to get pregnant or make your skin better or keep your feminine circle in place. Read the instruction, if you miss one pill, there’s no problem, things are gonna be okay. However if you miss 2 (or more) pills, you’re in trouble.

If you are a man, I feel so sorry for you since you always have to be a man. You have to be strong and impeccable all the time. You are not allowed to cry (easily). Well, we all know that, at the end of the day, you are a human-being – you have emotions, you have bad days, sometimes you need to take a day off, few times a week you need to go out with the boys, get drunk, recharge and can’t always fulfill your duties – trust me, real women and reasonable people respect you for your disappearance (because then you wouldn’t put your anger and frustration on us).

The thing is, do whatever you need to do for yourself, even if you really need to disappoint people sometimes. However, don’t make excuses, say Sorry (to yourself too) and don’t give guilt, laziness and resistance a chance to keep yourself from getting back to fulfill your promises. Come back and get the work done, the sooner the better.

Let’s get back to work and revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Part 3: Take a walk

I hope that even though I was not there yesterday, you took your (second) walk and enjoyed your best dreams . I’ll take it for granted that you’ve done your work with Step 1 & 2.

Here’s Part 4: Create your A—>B agenda. Stick to it.

I’ve told you earlier that – yesterday I had a tough (not bad) day at work. Here’s the full story:

I’m leading a project and it’s coming to the end, which means: The deadline is set, things will happen no matter what, therefore (1) I can not run out of money and (2) all my stakeholders need to do their work, according to my agenda, despite their own agendas.

However, everyone has his own agenda, thus everyone (1) wants to get (part of) my resources to fulfill his own agenda and (2) needs time to do other works. In order to sustain my project and to ship on time, I’ve had to say No a lot (to requests for extra resources); I’ve had to put disciplines on people and at the same time encourage them. By 6pm yesterday, I was burnt out, I’d had too much I wanted to cry.

Today I pulled myself out of office and stayed home. I put everything (including everyone’s requests) into consideration and worked on the final executive agenda. In other words, I pulled myself out of everyone’s agendas to focus on the project’s agenda. If you want to lead (at least your life), you have to be able to stay focus and, too, be able to execute and/or control the execution, every details of it if you need to (no one knows the master agenda better than you do, right?). You can not finish any project by giving random orders. Once you declare war, you better have an agenda in place, or better, have already known the series of orders to your army.

Now, say you went for the walk mentioned in Part 3, you’ve figured out you biggest dreams – that’s your B. You’re now at A. Get yourself a paper, draw your master agenda from A to B. I called the document A—>B agenda, it literally looks very complicated:

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Draw it down. This is my A—>B agenda (for now):

A: Skye is a communications personnel. She has been moving to another country (or city) every 2 years, therefore hasn’t been able to date anyone for long.

B: Skye owns some lifestyle & fashion businesses, a gallery, some islands. Skye has her name printed on some rockets. Skye has written a few wonderful books and still writes and paints everyday.

Skye’s lover adores her as much as she adores him. They create their (financially and spiritually) free and magical life around the world. They create something together and something of their own. They discuss. They sail and fly and walk and work and love. They know that “the end(s) of the world” are North Pole and South Pole and they can actually go there together, one at the time.

My dreams are quite simple I must say. How about yours? If your dreams don’t scare the hell out of you. Dream bigger.

Now let me introduce you to something very scary, it’s called the Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk). It was first presented to me by Seth Godin in his book “Linchpin”:

Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk) is a crowdsourcing Internet marketplace that enables individuals and businesses (known as Requesters) to coordinate the use of human intelligence to perform tasks that computers are currently unable to do.

Which means:

Any project can be broken down into very small tasks. When some tasks can not be performed by computers or robots, we can just list them on Amazon Mechanical Turk (MTurk) – Done. The A—>B agenda is expensive, the actual work is pretty cheap. I mean, you have a marketplace of human, all are racing to offer you the cheapest rate for completing a task. The smaller the task, the cheaper. If you can break your A—>B agenda down into very small and simple tasks, you’ll get things done almost for free.

Every company is a smaller version of the Amazon Mechanical Turk. The company’s owner has his A—>B agenda, you’re one human in his marketplace. Sorry, he’s not gonna pay you better if you’re (just) okay. There’ll always be someone that offers to perform the same task at a cheaper price. He’ll replace you. That’s how the businessman makes the most out of his margin, therefore makes more profit right.

High-level people (directors, managers) get paid so much more to solve much more complex problems, which the computers and majority of the human marketplace can not solve. Will you be one of those whom get paid so much more if you’re doing just okay, or slightly better? And that’s not even the point. The point is – Both of you are still parts of the Amazon Mechanical Turk, you’re in your biggest boss’s A—>B agenda. Do you see the truth now?

To sum up, Seth Godin (you seriously should check him out) once said:

“If your agenda is set by someone else and it doesn’t lead you where you want to go, why is it your agenda?”

So unplug yourself from everyone’s agendas. Go out, get yourself a coffee, create your own A—>B agenda, start designing your Amazon Mechanical Turk, get all your resources into work. You’ll see your dreams come true. And it’s not magic, especially when I’ve just explained to you the physic.

– Skye 

“There is darkness. There is light. There are men and women. There’s food. There are restaurants. Disease. There is work. Traffic. The days as we knew them. The world as we imagine the world.”

– Anonymous 

How to get Everything you want (3)

As promised yesterday, I’m back with Part 3 of How to get Everything you want.

If you’re still with me, I know that you really really really want to make all your dreams come true. You (maybe) don’t really know if I can help you out, but you’re willing to learn. In case I’m useless, you’ll learn from someone else. You’ll not miss any chance and you read everyday, you get the work done – That’s exactly the attitude that will take you to wherever you want to be.

Some have asked me why I’m doing this, writing (all the time)? Do I need people to appreciate my writing? NO, I don’t care about appreciation, reciprocity whatever. If you want to get everything you want and I can be helpful, I’m happy. I want to make gifts, beautiful gifts, thoughtful gifts then give them all to everyone I meet.

I do this for you and for myself. As I write for you, I remind myself about how I normally work (difficult) things out, subconsciously (I’m actually working things out, too. I’m writing – It’s a hard job). I’ll be very happy and successful, I know that for sure. Nevertheless I want both of us to be very happy and successful. So let’s get back to work.

Let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

I hope that you now do have clear vision(s) about yourself, the life you want to have; you are grateful for what you are having and are ready (to take risks and to work hard) to get what you are grateful for having in the future.

Here’s Part 3: Take a walk

Let all your thoughts go, then imagine you living your dream life. Picture your dream life carefully, in detail. Enjoy the dream. Breath. Keep walking. Take that walk everyday.

Look at this picture:

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What do you see?

3 chairs and a table in an old house (and a swimming pool). Yes, you’re right.

This was my conversation with a friend when I took the picture:

“You see that man sitting over there? His name is Julius. Mr. Julius has always liked a well-lighted terrace with shadows of the leaves.

Skye, I see nobody.

Well, close your eyes. Listen to me. Today is some time around 1958, the streets out there are kinda busy and dusty. Here inside this charming French terrace, the dust settled, on the floor there are shadows of the leaves. The old man likes to sit here alone. He is deaf, it’s quite and he feels the difference. I used to come and read on weekends. We met a few times, made friends, eventually shared the table and enjoyed our own books. One stormy day when I couldn’t come, he left me a note at the bar: “My dear Skye, I love the silence here. See you next week! – Julius”

Did you just see Julius for a second? Did you just go time travel with me for a minute? Most importantly, did you feel that – the deaf man could not hear but he could imagine the noise of the streets, therefore enjoyed his silent corner, as much as I did.

I made the story up, 100%, obviously. But I’ve just told you about the unimaginable power of imagination.

Your imagination brings you to everywhere, especially to that sweet corner where you enjoy life the most.

People can take things from you, however no one can ever take away the happiness you can create for yourself, every time, every where. And it’s very important to be happy, first and foremost.

So take a walk, imagine your dream life. Does it scare you out because it’s too beautiful to be true? Great. You got it. Enjoy it for now, virtually. Otherwise, dream crazier.

I’ll come back with Step 4 tomorrow, I promise you (and myself). Before we go, let me tell you something really weird. I’d always told myself something when I was little: “I dream to be a Queen (not Princess) with my own castle.”

Should I tell you now this is cartoon:

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– Skye 

How to get Everything you want (2)

As promised yesterday, I’m back with Part 2 of How to get Everything you want.

Let’s revise our journey until now:

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision. Create your vision!

I hope that you’ve taken time to note down your vision(s) about yourself, your life. It’s very important to have good ideas about those, otherwise we’re lost.

Here’s Part 2: Count what you have AND what you don’t yet have; be grateful for both!

Why do you need to be grateful for what you have?

To begin with, many people think having more is equal to happiness; I’m one of those.

It’s been around 7 years since I first got paid for my first part-time job as a stockbroker (via telephone). My salary itself has since increased by 15 times, let alone the benefits and perks (I always make sure that I demand for the maximum package possible). I’ve moved out of family and am now living in a very nice (rented) apartment. I’m able to travel around and buy mostly every fashion item that the girl in me would desire for. I’m telling you, I still come home after work and question myself almost everyday: “This is not enough. I want more. I’m not doing good enough.”

Recently I had lunch with my friend Stephen (not his real name), whom was (and is still) a hugely successful entrepreneur in Europe during the dot-com era. Stephen came from an upper class family in the UK. He had a very stylish lifestyle until he got out of college. THEN WHAT? He backpacked around the world, common story. Here’s what he’d told me during our lunch:

“I met people whom possessed so much less, people whom were very poor; some of them were miserable, however a lot of them were very happy. They laughed genuinely, went to sleep peacefully. My encounters back then changed my perspectives completely. My life was too easy, I had too much in England, I took all for granted, I wanted more and I was not fully happy. I knew I needed to do something.”

Stephen made a very good point – You (and I) either live happily in our present or we’d need to do something to be (fully) happy.

On one side, if you are looking for happiness, taking more risk or creating more surplus may only bring you to that infinite race with your ego, you’ll never be satisfied. So count what you have, if you have possessed enough, it’s time to enjoy freedom and happiness… for a while.

On the other side, if you still want more in term of possession, counting what you have will give you a good view about your current resources. No one can start a project without resources, yet you have to acknowledge of: What you’re grateful for enough not to risk them (all) to get something else? Those might be your loved ones, your health, your house… be grateful for their presence and hold on to them dearly. You’re then free (in mind) to risk everything else.

Why do you have to be grateful for what you don’t yet have?

Now that you have your resources, you know what you will risk and what you will not risk to get things you really want, time to start working.

Again, if something is rewarding and important enough for you to dream of, then please be grateful for it in advance. Believe in your dream as if you’ve already nailed it.

Why? Because if you dream big enough, it’s not gonna be easy, the work is gonna be really really really hard. Most of the time when your dream is big enough, people will say you are crazy, they’ll laugh at your face, they’ll try to stop you (because they obviously don’t want you to be better than who they are).

Worse, some people will try to convince you that you’re not good enough. Worst, you are convinced. So write your dream down on a piece of paper, stick it on the wall in front of your bed, read it (out loud) to yourself every morning every night, get obsessed and just forget about hope and work like hell. That way you’ll focus on the work but the noise around you. You’ll get there if you just focus on the work and keep going.

You have to believe me. Obama made it through the hardest recruitment on earth, he became the U.S. President (a.k.a the man with NUCLEAR POWER). Here’s what he’d recently told Human of New York:

US President Barack Obama speaks about immigration reform during a meeting with young immigrants, known as DREAMers, in the Oval Office of the White House in Washington, DC, February 4, 2015. The group has received Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA), which provides relief from deportation for immigrants who arrived in the US illegally before they were 16 years old. AFP PHOTO / SAUL LOEB        (Photo credit should read SAUL LOEB/AFP/Getty Images)

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“When is the time you felt most broken?”

“I first ran for Congress in 1999, and I got beat. I just got whooped. I had been in the state legislature for a long time, I was in the minority party, I wasn’t getting a lot done, and I was away from my family and putting a lot of strain on Michelle. Then for me to run and lose that bad, I was thinking maybe this isn’t what I was cut out to do. I was forty years old, and I’d invested a lot of time and effort into something that didn’t seem to be working. But the thing that got me through that moment, and any other time that I’ve felt stuck, is to remind myself that it’s about the work. Because if you’re worrying about yourself—if you’re thinking: ‘Am I succeeding? Am I in the right position? Am I being appreciated?’ — then you’re going to end up feeling frustrated and stuck. But if you can keep it about the work, you’ll always have a path. There’s always something to be done.”

That’s it for today. I do have a full time job and (too bad) I will (need to) come back to it now. Nevertheless I promised you yesterday to deliver this article, I made it. I hope that you’ve too fulfilled your promise to someone today; or got important stuff done.

– Skye

How to get Everything you want (1)

I’m here to tell you that yourself and the people out there, whom have everything, were created equally.

Here’s why:

I’m co-writing a novel in which I envision the world when robots have completely replaced humans in industries. Creators, artists and scientists live on my island (yes Skye island it is) to create arts and researches. The rest of humanity, whom I called the Soft-Landers, choose to retire early and just enjoy life, buy luxuries, get wasted, travel, have sex endlessly… until they get so depressed then they get drunk again. That’s basically how, in fact, many people who have it all are suffering. Rich guys, too, do have hard times. They’ve already got everything, THEN WHAT?

Thank God we were all created equally, then there’s a solution for all of us – To create the Arts (or Everything) we could ever dream of.

How to get Everything you want (THEN WHAT?)

Part 1: Every (great) thing in life starts with a vision

Don’t let the kid in you grow up, don’t give up on daydreaming, I beg you. I also beg you to be selfish (I’d actually like to use the word self-fulfilling) like a kid – like things, desire things, dream of them, cry out loud, be desperate, ask anyone or go out of your way to get what you want from the kids next door. Because you know what, if yourself are not fulfilled (in some cases spiritually), you have absolutely nothing to give.

Ok, back to vision. Let me tell you bluntly, if you don’t work on your vision, you’re probably working on somebody else’s. In other words, you’re in somebody else’s plan but vice versa. Don’t do that to yourself (forever). Nothing’s worth your valuable time and bloody efforts but your own dreams.

I’m not only talking materially but also personally. I was so sad every time I heard anyone claiming to be a victim in a relationship, any relationship. Here’s my rule for relationships, just for your reference: I don’t (or will no longer) invest my time and efforts in people that I can’t create any (more) vision of us in a relationship, any relationship – friendship, professional, romantic, etc. I just don’t talk, don’t go out (again), don’t create attachment, don’t have fun with them. Life’s too short and too long for unhealthy (or meaningless) companies.

So first step, create your vision.

What’s your vision about yourself, your life, your friends, you family, your love, your future…? What do you want to have? What you won’t tolerate?

It’s very important to have good ideas about these, otherwise we’re lost.

– Skye